Superscript
Relationships die from being too demanding
The condition lingers when it is not accepted. Depression stays when you can't be sad. Anger doesn't go away when anger is forbidden.
I remembered a man talking about the circumstances before the breakup. "We've almost stopped talking. There was always some kind of deafening irritation. Didn't want sex. "It was boring and I wanted to run.". You can only love when you can not love. That's the kind of attitude a mature enough person can endure. Separate and mature. Love lives in freedom.
Love lives in freedom
Warmth goes out when you demand constant fire (from yourself and others). Attention, attention! Pauses are scary for those who haven't grown up enough yet. But lulls are natural intervals in life. There's an eternal flame on the graves.
So that's what one wants to keep in mind? What they're so happy with? Who's proving "how you should love me"? And why would one want to kill the one who left? So much anger. To whom it's really addressed?
Relationships die from excessive demandingness. Feast, care, passion, permanence, security, tenderness, touches, gifts, affectionate words. Give me! Give! Everyone waits for what he missed when he was a child.
And it's about judgment again. If a child hasn't forgiven his mother's coldness, he carries this icy woman inside him. Arguing with her and carrying her without noticing how he rejects others himself. Then a man will have that kind of partner. With the same snow queen mama inside.
As soon as one accepts inside what was once abandoned and asks for love instead of accusations, the parental figure inside the person changes. d Hugging yourself, taking care of you d. And then the environment reflects a person's attitude to herself.
Stop abandoning when you're no longer abandoned.
Or this topic will go on and on. If the desire to teach your parents a lesson is stronger than the desire to love yourself.
Red vigilantes do not spare themselves for a righteous cause. They don't live for themselves, but for ideas. Rebels exist to prove their worth to others instead of noticing it themselves.
It's just... You have to turn to yourself. To the state that is now not accepted. That's what a psychologist is for. You say I'm such a bitch. It's just awful! And in return, it's okay. It happens to everybody.